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Adult spanking is considered taboo in the United States and is frequently classified as part of the BDSM culture.{{Fact|date=October 2007}} Some participants {{Who |
Adult spanking is considered taboo in the United States and is frequently classified as part of the BDSM culture.{{Fact|date=October 2007}} Some participants {{Who|date=May 2009}} tend to reject the classification because they see their fetish as being more mental than physical, though this in turn reflects prejudices about BDSM which covers a range of fetishes including some that are purely mental.{{Fact|date=May 2009}} The adult spanking community suffers from a lack of cohesive identity within the United States because its association with BDSM has resulted in a great deal of shared terminology and confusion over the difference between adult [Punishment] spanking and erotic spanking. {{Fact|date=May 2009}} There are a number of significant publications that are readily available in public newsstands. {{Verify source|date=May 2009}} Consequently, the bulk of adult spanking literature and guides are developed in this region. {{Fact|date=May 2009}} |
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===Ageplay=== |
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[[Ageplay]] is a type of [[sexual roleplay]] which, because of its [[Domination & submission (BDSM)|dominance and submission]] aspects, is considered a form of [[BDSM]]. It may be referred to as [[edgeplay]] because of its level of social acceptability; such [[roleplay]] may involve (fictional) [[incest]], and a common reaction is to associate child role playing in a sexual situation with [[pedophilia]]. {{Fact|date=May 2009}} Most sexual age players {{Who |
[[Ageplay]] is a type of [[sexual roleplay]] which, because of its [[Domination & submission (BDSM)|dominance and submission]] aspects, is considered a form of [[BDSM]]. It may be referred to as [[edgeplay]] because of its level of social acceptability; such [[roleplay]] may involve (fictional) [[incest]], and a common reaction is to associate child role playing in a sexual situation with [[pedophilia]]. {{Fact|date=May 2009}} Most sexual age players {{Who|date=May 2009}} resent any association with [[pedophilia]], and claim that neither party is encouraged to believe there is a real child involved, and that it involves two consenting adults with one expressing the assumed emotional vulnerability of a child. Age players typically use spanking as a part of their role playing activities. {{Fact|date=May 2009}} The use of spanking in this form is not consistent with the manner in which “traditional” spankos enjoy spanking. The key difference is that the age player is primarily concerned with playing the role of a child whereas the spanko is primarily concerned about fantasizing about situations in which spankings would be appropriate when age is part of their role play. {{Fact|date=May 2009}} The age player remains in the child role whether or not a spanking is part of their play. |
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Revision as of 11:53, 13 May 2009
Erotic spanking is the practice of spanking another person for the sexual gratification of either or both parties. Activities range from occasional sexual roleplay (such as ageplay) to domestic discipline and may involve the use of a hand or the use of a variety of spanking implements, such as a spanking paddle or cane.[1] Many cultures described pain as an aphrodisiac. For example, the Kama Sutra, in particular, goes into specific detail on how to properly strike a partner during sex.[2]
History
Representations of erotic spanking and flagellation make up a large portion of Victorian pornography (see 1000 Nudes by Koetzle, the first acknowledged homosexual spank star in 1853.) Hundreds of thousands of engravings, photographs, and/or literary depictions of spanking and flagellation ("birching") fantasies circulated during the Victorian era, including erotic novellas like Lady Bumtickler's Revels, The Whippingham Papers, Wezzellian Behaviors, Yerbouti Ermine or An Exhibition of Female Flagellants.[3]
Practice
A spanking may be carried out with the use of a bare hand, or with a spanking implement such as a paddle, strap, hairbrush or belt.[4]
Other implements may sometimes be used, such as a cane, riding crop, whip, switch (rod), birch, gloves, a plastic bottle (the action is called bottling), a ruler (even a yardstick) or martinet. However, some people do not regard the use of those implements as spanking. (see Category:Spanking implements). Erotic spankings are commonly combined with other forms of sexual foreplay, such as oral sex, sexual roleplaying and/or ageplay. The most common type of erotic spanking is administered on the bare buttocks,[4] but can also be combined with bondage, in order to heighten sexual arousal and feelings of helplessness.
Positions which may be used to administer a spanking include:
- over the knees (OTK) or across the lap
- stooped over a chair or couch, or bench
- on hands and knees (bed or floor)
- on shoulder of spanker
- kneeling on a bed or ottoman, stooped over with hands on the floor
- bent under the arm of the spanker
- lying face down on a bed
- bent over, touching toes or over a desk
- lying on back with legs raised upward and toward chest
- handcuffed to a bed
- tied to a doorway
- tied to a tree or pole that is in a safe area outside
- legs spread apart, almost in the splits position.
Those interested in giving or receiving erotic spankings are sometimes known as spankophiles. Examples include the poet Algernon Swinburne (as implied repeatedly in his poetry) and the philosopher Jean-Jacques Rousseau, as detailed in his autobiography Confessions:[5]
... Miss Lambercier... exerted a mother's authority, even to inflicting on us... the punishment of infants... Who would believe this childish discipline, received at eight years old, from the hands of a woman of thirty, should influence my propensities, my desires, my passions, for the rest of my life... To fall at the feet of an imperious mistress, obey her mandates, or implore pardon, were for me the most exquisite enjoyments, and the more my blood was inflamed by the efforts of a lively imagination the more I acquired the appearance of a whining lover."[6]
Terminology
Dom (or Domme for a woman): The term is short for "Dominant" and refers to the person in the spanking relationship as the one who delivers the spanking. In lifestyle spanking, the Dom assumes the role of caretaker and disciplinarian.
Implement: Refers to the object being used to deliver the spanking.
Safe word: This is a word in which participants within a spanking session agree to use to signify that the consensual spanking should be stopped. The word is necessary because spanking frequently occurs within the context of a role play where it is typical for the spanked individual to protest.
Spanking Session: This is the time in which the participants are engaged in the act of spanking. Some consider any role play leading up to and afterwards to be a part of the session.
Sub: The term is short for "Submissive" and refers to the person in the spanking relationship as the one who receives the spanking.
Subspace: This is a euphoric physical and mental state achieved by the spankee during the course of a spanking session.
Controversy
Adult spanking is considered taboo in the United States and is frequently classified as part of the BDSM culture.[citation needed] Some participants [who?] tend to reject the classification because they see their fetish as being more mental than physical, though this in turn reflects prejudices about BDSM which covers a range of fetishes including some that are purely mental.[citation needed] The adult spanking community suffers from a lack of cohesive identity within the United States because its association with BDSM has resulted in a great deal of shared terminology and confusion over the difference between adult [Punishment] spanking and erotic spanking. [citation needed] There are a number of significant publications that are readily available in public newsstands. [verification needed] Consequently, the bulk of adult spanking literature and guides are developed in this region. [citation needed]
Ageplay
Ageplay is a type of sexual roleplay which, because of its dominance and submission aspects, is considered a form of BDSM. It may be referred to as edgeplay because of its level of social acceptability; such roleplay may involve (fictional) incest, and a common reaction is to associate child role playing in a sexual situation with pedophilia. [citation needed] Most sexual age players [who?] resent any association with pedophilia, and claim that neither party is encouraged to believe there is a real child involved, and that it involves two consenting adults with one expressing the assumed emotional vulnerability of a child. Age players typically use spanking as a part of their role playing activities. [citation needed] The use of spanking in this form is not consistent with the manner in which “traditional” spankos enjoy spanking. The key difference is that the age player is primarily concerned with playing the role of a child whereas the spanko is primarily concerned about fantasizing about situations in which spankings would be appropriate when age is part of their role play. [citation needed] The age player remains in the child role whether or not a spanking is part of their play.
Therapy
Adult spanking is a highly contentious form of discipline spanking that is frequently miscategorized and misunderstood. The controversy stems from a multitude of sources. First, there are those that prefer to consider spanking in this form as something that can only occur between a parent and a child. This opinion is backed up by the APA who includes parent - child relationship as part of the definition.[7] Second, there are few recognized legitimate scientific studies that have been conducted on the subject. The leading source of funding for such research is an organization that earns its revenue through the promotion of entertainment spanking services leading skeptics to question the legitimacy of the work. Third, the lack of credible licensed practitioners often leads to individual claims of group membership through self-diagnosis, affirmation from others who have made similar claims and a variety of alternative therapists. A study by McNulty and Wardle suggests that attempts to seek help through typical support channels may lead individuals to seek comfort through unconventional means.[8]
Adult spanking differs from traditional parent-child spanking in that the act is between two consenting adults. Adults engage in the activity for several different reasons. The most common is simply playful spanking amongst people engaging in other intimate activities. People who require spanking to be a part of their sexual play are considered spanking fetishists. There are two groups of people whose use of spanking is discipline related. The first group incorporates spanking as part of their overall belief system in how a husband and wife should interrelate (see domestic discipline).
The second group considers spanking to be an essential component of their recovery and/or development.[9] These individuals subscribe to the notion that they require some form of retraining or reparenting to be able to function as adults.[10][11] They claim that the act of spanking is a necessary mechanism for modifying the behavior of the adapted child ego state of the adult being spanked.[12] The idea is extracted from Alexander’s claim that a corrective emotional experience was required to allow patients to repair traumatic influence of previous experiences.[13] The claim is not without merit, as preliminary studies into this class of adult spanking indicate that participants have suffered from some form of childhood abuse. However, there is evidence to suggest that these individuals are in fact “stuck” in the earlier stages of recovery and lack the appropriate support to move on.[14]
See also
- BDSM
- Dominatrix
- Kink (sexual)
- Spanking magazines
- Berkley Horse
- Spanking bench
- Spank skirt
- Flagellation
- Nexus Books
- Penny Birch
- Yolanda Celbridge
- Wendy Swanscombe
- Dippoldism
- Algolagnia
Sources and further reading
- The Spanking Art Wiki
- Biblio Curiosa Wiki
- Basics of Erotic Spanking
- Koetzle, Michael. 1000 Nudes: A History of Erotic Photography from 1839-1939. Taschen, 2005.
- Lady Green, The Compleat Spanker. Greenery Press, 2000. ISBN 1-890159-00-X.
- Marcus, Steven. The Other Victorians. Basic Books, 1966.
- Rousseau, Jean-Jaques. The Confessions of Jean-Jaques Rousseau. London: Penguin Books, 1953.
- Swinburne, Charles Algernon. The Works of Charles Algernon Swinburne. Hertfordshire: Wordsworth Editions, 1995.
References
- ^ Jules Markham, Consensual Spanking. (Adlibbed Ltd., 2005)
- ^ Love, Brenda (1992). The Encyclopedia of Unusual Sex Practices. London: Greenwich Editions. p. 113. ISBN 0-86288-223-0.
- ^ Steven Marcus (1966). The Other Victorians.
- ^ a b Rebecca F. Plante (2006). "Sexual Spanking, the Self, and the Construction of Deviance". Journal of Homosexuality. 50. The Haworth Press: 59. doi:10.1300/J082v50n02_04.
- ^ Sigmund Freud (1905). Three Essays on the Theory of Sexuality.
- ^ Jean-Jacques Rousseau. Confessions of J. J. Rousseau.
- ^ American Psychological Association (APA). 750 First Street NE, Washington DC 20002. Web site: www.apa.org.
- ^ McNulty, C., & Wardle, J. (1994). Adult disclosure of sexual abuse: A primary cause of psychological distress? Child Abuse and Neglect, 18, 549-555.
- ^ Zimberoff, D., & Hartman. , (2001), Existential issues in Heart-Centered therapies: A developmental approach. Journal of Heart-Centered Therapies, 4(1), 3-55.
- ^ Cornett, C. (June, 2005). The cyclical pattern of child physical abuse from a psychoanalytic self-psychology perspective. Child and Adolescent Social Work Journal. Vol2 No. 2
- ^ Peterson, Joann. (1981) "Parent Aide Programs: The Reparenting Process". Proceedings of the American Academy of Pediatrics.
- ^ Watkins, J., & Watkins, H. (1997). Ego States: Theory and Therapy. New York: Norton
- ^ Alexander, F., French, T. M., et al. (1946). Psychoanalytic Therapy: Principles and Application. New York: Ronald Press.
- ^ Bratton, M. (1999), From Surviving to Thriving: A Therapist's Guide to Stage II Recovery for Survivors of Childhood. Hawthorne Press.